Partnering with your massage therapist

An effective massage requires a partnership. We massage therapists are in charge of giving our clients the best massage possible. And you are in charge of relaxing the best you know how in whatever ways work for you. So we like you to communicate what feels good and what isn’t so great.

1. A lot goes on in a massage session

The first thing that we tend to think of in massage is pressure. Do you sometimes feel like shrinking away from a touch that’s too deep or fast? Do you ever feel frustrated because the technique feels too light or not specific enough? We would love to know so we can adjust to meet your needs. We have a lot of tricks up our sleeve. 

If you are too cold, it is easy to turn up the heat. If you are uncomfortable on the table, you can shift to another position or be supported with extra pillows. If you don’t like an oil or lotion, there is probably something else on hand that you will like better. Would you like the music louder or softer — or turned off completely?  

2. Help yourself relax

Try ignoring concerns about yawning or stomach gurgling. These are expected, even welcomed, during sessions because they are signs you are letting go of tension. 

3. After your massage

You can help extend the benefits for your continued health and relaxation even after your massage. Drink plenty of water. It helps carry away waste products that can be released from your muscles during a massage, and your muscles may feel less sore and fatigued.

If you are a little sore or if the massage didn’t relieve all your aches and pains, take a hot shower or hot bath with Epsom salts when you get home. Don’t forget to relate your experience in your next session, so the pressure can be adjusted if need be. To extend the benefits of your sessions, keep up an exercise program, remembering that you don’t have to be a super athlete. Walking for 30 minutes, taking a tai chi class, or moving to music around your living room keeps your circulation moving and oxygenates your muscles.

Postpone if you're ill!

If you have a fever or an infectious sickness, even a common cold, there is good reason to postpone your appointment. For one thing, you may find that touch does not feel good. Second, your immune system is working hard to control and isolate the infection, and it’s possible massage could hinder this process. Even if massage sounds good to you, some people feel worse after receiving a massage when they are sick. 

There is also a good chance your infection is contagious in the first stages. This is usually when you are feeling the worst, or are coughing and sneezing frequently. The more you limit your contact with others, the less you will spread it around. If you don’t pass a cold to your practitioner, she or he won’t give it to other clients.

When you catch the cold or flu, let yourself rest and drink plenty of liquids. Then enjoy your next massage in good health!

Happy New Year!

It's a new year, and I just want to thank my readers for sticking with me in 2010. I hope to bring you more useful information in 2011. Questions or topic suggestions are welcome!

~Stephanie

Boost your happiness with gratitude

How to reap the benefits of thankfulness

Some people consider the ability to be grateful the key to happiness. Focusing on what you do have instead of what you don’t is basic to the experience of joy. Some of the most grateful people are those who have faced death, maybe because they truly understand the gift of simply being alive. Dawn Nelson was a massage therapist working with the frail and dying when she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She writes eloquently about gratitude in her book, Making Friends with Cancer.

“If I cannot get out of bed, I can be thankful for the fact that I am able to turn my head, wriggle my toes, feel the smoothness of silk, smell the fragrance of the roses…. The simple act of noticing what one has to be grateful for has tremendous power over the mind. I use this process to get through difficult moments during my cancer treatment and recovery. I use it to shift my mood when I am feeling ‘down’ or to cope with unpleasant tasks.”

Plan a gratitude session.

1. Get comfortable in a quiet place, inside or out. Turn off the TV and computer and don’t answer your phone.

2. Think about what you have to be thankful for, what and who you cherish. 

3. Silently thank people who have done something for you. 

4. Write a personal wish for someone you are grateful for on a peace of paper. Sit quietly, repeating the wish several times. Then burn the paper, watching the smoke dissipate into the atmosphere.

5. Call or email one of those people to thank them.

Practicing gratitude is a simple way to bring more meaning, joy and satisfaction into your daily life.

Make your massage a retreat this fall

5 ways to really unwind

It’s a busy time of year. Remember your body and mind are wired to need breaks from stress. Here are five ideas to help you turn your massage session into a mini-retreat.

1. Schedule your massage sessions ahead. This can help you avoid being overwhelmed by pre-event anxiety or post-event let down.

 

2. If possible, sweat in a sauna or soak in a hot tub or herbal bath before your massage to give your muscles a chance to warm and relax. Afterward, sit or lie quietly in the massage room or other quiet space before reentering the world.

3. Don’t go back to work or run errands. Go home and avoid the computer and telephone. Lie down, listen to music, or do simple activities such as drawing or folding laundry to keep your mind in a dreamy state. 

4. Take a leisurely walk or simply sit by a window with a view of trees, water or a garden. Relax your eyes and focus on the colors and textures of the earthly environment.

5. Before bed the evening after your massage, drink a cup of herb tea such as chamomile or lavender to help you sleep. Sleepytime® is a popular commercial tea many people like to help them get a good night’s rest.

Aromas for the fall and winter

Enjoy seasonal pleasures, reduce stress

Oranges, cinnamon, apples, cloves. Aromas that bring back memories of cool days, family visits, and days spent cooking and feasting. Not only are these evocative scents enough to make a fall day feel cozy, but the aromas of orange, cinnamon and clove can reduce stress when inhaled. Here are two recipes to enjoy this autumn.

Orange Pomanders

The sweet scent of an orange pomander, a traditional Victorian craft, will fill a home with citrus freshness. Cloves can relieve nasal congestion and improve digestion — a bonus around Thanksgiving.

You’ll need unblemished oranges, a pile of large-headed cloves, and a knitting needle or fork for poking holes. Punch holes in the skin of the orange, inserting cloves as you go. Make stripes or cover the orange completely. 

Now place 1 tablespoon each of ground cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves in a paper bag and mix. Roll the clove studded orange in the ground spices to coat evenly. Leave the pomander in the bag and store in a cool, dry area for 3–5 weeks to dry. Each day, roll it around in the spices. 

When it’s dry, shake off excess spices. Display in a bowl or hang with a pretty ribbon.

Mulled cider

Come in from the cold to the heady aroma of mulled cider. Cinnamon is another spice said to help the digestive system as well as fatigue.

Add cinnamon sticks, cloves and fresh orange slices to a pot of apple cider. Use whole spices, not ground, to avoid cloudy, gritty cider.

Simmer gently for at least 1/2 hour to allow flavors to infuse. Don’t boil it as it can turn spices bitter. You can keep the pot warm for several hours — a crock pot is ideal.

Serve in mugs garnished with an orange slice or cinnamon stick.

Detox: Midway

Today is day 11 of my detoxing program (read the introduction here). I'm halfway through. Excitingly, I finally get to add lean protein! I was thinking about what to make this week, and I actually forgot that I can have chicken and fish now. I kept thinking, "Okay, this would be good, and I can add this protein for Dear Husband." Except, I can have that protein now, too! My chiropractor said I could also have quinoa, the only protein that is complete protein, meaning it has all nine of the essential amino acids that humans need. I'm going to ask her if egg whites are okay.

Mmmmm ... eggs.

I'm also no longer on the "cleansing" supplement. I'm still taking the protein and fiber powders with the smoothies, but now I'm taking five capsules of SP Green Food twice a day (it's made of dried buckwheat and barley juices - not sure how a juice can be dried, but what do I know?). When I checked in with the doctor, I mentioned that I was feeling unsatisfied and hungry, especially in the later evening. I had only been taking two smoothies a day because I was worried it was too much fruit, meaning too many calories. (Not to mention the fact that you can't eat for an hour afterward, and once you eat, you have to wait two hours before having another, so time management with three has been tricksy.) She suggested that I be sure to get in three smoothies, since they were my protein source, and that I blend up veggies, any veggies, like spinach and carrots. She said I could add stevia to sweeten them.

Well, I made a carrot/strawberry smoothie from a recipe from the supplement manufacturer's website. It tasted good, but I don't have a high-performance commercial drink blender, so the raw carrots were chunky and it was a little off-putting. I'm going to try this one again, but with shredded carrot in the hopes that my blender can handle that more easily. I can't bring myself to blend up a veggie smoothie, though. I just don't know what to do. I'm sure I could mine the depths of the Interweb, but I'm scared about what I might find. So I haven't added a third shake, but I'm hoping that won't matter now that I can have three palm-sized servings of chewable protein a day. I had avocado and tomato chunks with a little red onion and chopped capers over spinach with oil olive, fresh lemon juice and fresh ground pepper last night when I had my 9pm hunger attack. That was actually incredibly satisfying. It was delicious and the good fats in the avocado really filled me up. I wish I had thought of that sooner!

I've been eating pretty much only veggies, since I've been using fruit for the smoothies. It's been pretty easy to make sure half of my veggies are raw; I usually have a salad for lunch, cooked veggies for dinner, and raw veggies for snacks. I've also been trying to stick to seasonal bounty when it comes to the fresh food. Eating seasonally is something I started a couple of years ago since it's more eco-friendly (surprising, the aforementioned spinach and tomatoes were found at a local farmer's market - probably the last of them, though). It's usually quite easy, but it's been a little harder with this program since I don't have grains, dairy, nuts, seeds or shellfish to add some variety to my palate. I sometimes feel like I'm eating the same things over and over. Sometimes I feel creative, and sometimes I just don't have the time to think about it. I'm hoping the addition of protein today will also alleviate the perceived boredom.

Things that haven't been happening? I haven't been gassy or bloated. I haven't had any indigestion or discomfort after eating. I have been going to the bathroom a lot, and, um, regularly. But that's good. That means my system is flushing itself of waste. Since I'm putting only good things into my body, it can finally work to get rid of any crap it's accumulated. Points to you if you noticed my puns.

I've also discovered that eating out is difficult. First, you might not find anything that works for you. Secondly, you might find something, but only if you can have substitutions. And some restaurants don't take to that and make sure you know it's a difficult request. It's upsetting because I'm trying to live the healthiest life possible and the overall attitude toward food in this country doesn't jive with mine.

If you have any favorite recipes that would work during this program, please share! And if you know of a delicious veggie smoothie that can easily be made in your standard home kitchen blender, I beg of you, let me know!